Relationships are not easy, and yet we are told with the right person it will be, so how do you know you’ve met the one?
My significant other and I have been in each other’s lives for over a decade. Things didn’t get serious with us until a few years ago, but lately, I have been having some doubts. Mostly because I’m seeing everyone around me get married and/or have kids. And I felt stuck. Naturally, I talked about it with my therapist and she reminded me not to compare my timeline with others.
She has a point, after all, when my mother died I went into full survival mode. Meaning, I did not have a roaring twenties or even a grown thirties. Every step taken from then until now has just been me trying to survive. Having just begun the process of stepping out of that mode, I can’t expect to compare my timeline to theirs. It’s like the quote says “comparison is a thief of joy”.
All I can do is trust the process and take each step of my journey slow and steady.