Originally posted 15 January 2015
Nevermore than this moment has it been more apparent to me how different tomboys are treated compared to girly girls.
Maybe it’s just me being jealous or petty, but I just find it amusing and yet depressing, how male customers are drawn to girly girls, but seem to almost ignore the tomboy. That is until there is a problem and the tomboy has to step in and solve it. Only then do they notice the tomboy.
But the catch is, they begin to assume the tomboy is a lesbian. Does no one believe in not judging a book by its cover? I am not saying that all men are guilty of this, but at least 90 percent of those I have observed appear to judge this book quite differently.
Why is a woman’s desirability or ability to do a job seemingly based on her looks?
However, never is it more humourous than that moment when the rumor becomes, “you were moved from the front line because your not pretty enough”.
As a tomboy having this happen after 12 years in the workforce, I found this incredibly ridiculous. For the first time, my outer appearance and mannerisms were a hot topic when it has always been an advantage to my employers both past and present. So I embraced it. While I might not be the most feminine or the prettiest, it is my personality and professionalism that keeps the customers happy. As far as I am concerned, as long as I am neat and maintain my work ethic I will always be happy.
I don’t need skirts and make-up. I am confident in my skin. And to me, that is all that matters.
Afterthought 2021: I have reread this post a million times recently, and I can’t help wondering, just when did I lose my courage, my self-assuredness, and my self-esteem? Where oh where can I find the strong woman I used to be?